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Post by Tracy » Wed Feb 04, 2009 7:59 pm

Click 'ignore', Paul.

I've had to do it before and know others who have, too, for various reasons. :wink:

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Post by Son of Tubbs returns! » Wed Feb 04, 2009 8:01 pm

Does it say thier end that they have been ignored?

I know it's hard to believe but I've never been ignored! :lol:

EDIT Well not on FB! :wink:
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Post by Tracy » Wed Feb 04, 2009 8:06 pm

Son of Tubbs returns! wrote:Does it say thier end that they have been ignored?

I know it's hard to believe but I've never been ignored! :lol:

EDIT Well not on FB! :wink:
No idea. But... should you really care? :wink:
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Post by MrsBeasley » Wed Feb 04, 2009 8:31 pm

Yeah just ignore hun
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Post by ChubbyTubby » Wed Feb 04, 2009 10:33 pm

Ignore it. She won't be able to see your response.

Pressing that ignore button has been repsonsible for some sweet moments.

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Post by MrsBeasley » Fri Feb 06, 2009 11:11 am

Was speaking to the other supervisor at work last night & she said she was in work the other night drunk & told my boss a few things that annoyed her.

She said she told him me & her had been talking and that we felt really unappreciated & that he never says thanks for anything.

Now this is not true. Not on my part anyway. Me & boss man get on well & he has been good to me. So now he's going to think that I've been sitting b!tching about him when in actual fact I was just listening to her when she was upset.

I'm unsure whether to just leave it or say to him that I don't feel like that. He should know I don't as we talk quite a bit. I haven't seen him since he went on holiday but by all accounts he's been in an awful mood since he got back. And the stock check is today so if its down the likelihood is that he will not be in the greatest of moods tonight either. I'm hoping it'll be ok as me & the other supervisor are neurotic with wastage & I can't see it being too out.
Anyway should I say something or just let it pass?
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Post by Son of Tubbs returns! » Fri Feb 06, 2009 4:22 pm

Say something Gilie. Your co worker had no right to speak on your behalf. Plus if it isn't true why should he be under the mis apprehension that that is what you think when it isn't.

Tell him that he has been good to you and you appreciate it and that your friend speaks for herself.
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Post by ChubbyTubby » Fri Feb 06, 2009 9:57 pm

That was unfair and you shouldn't have to put up with your work relationships suffering because someone got confused and dropped you in it for something that isn't true when they were drunk. Speak to the boss, otherwise it'll just fester.

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Post by MrsBeasley » Sat Feb 07, 2009 10:58 am

Spoke to boss, he was sound. He knew she was talk out her backside anyway!
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Post by Son of Tubbs returns! » Tue Feb 17, 2009 7:07 pm

I never added her for a couple of reasons. Firstly, she kind of belongs in the past and that where I want her to stay.She is a kind of reminder of stuff I don't need a constant reminder of. Secondly,it *COULD* lead to bigger problems if I accrpt her on facebook and she may read more into it than is there( It would only ber done to be kind) and thirdly I'm slightly concerned that someone I haven't dated for 15 years now, who is married with kids, is quite so keen. I mean she texts at least once a day, keeps asking when I will accept her on FB and always asking when we are meeting up and she is begining to unsettle me a little bit. I have just stopped replying now, so hopefully that will do the job. Though I suspect it won't be that easy.

Plus what you said about being comfortable with them being in your life again is spot on. When we met after Friends reunited led her to me, I thought I would be fine with it. I've decided I'm not and its not because I still have any feelings for her, because I have none at all.Either she has changed or I have, but we are now worlds apart in every aspect of our lives and I don't want her in my life however small a part it is. You know, I like my life now and I need no hassle.

Plus if it comes to it, I will make Katie pretend to be my girlfriend and make her shout at her as Katie kindly offered! :lol:
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Post by Tracy » Tue Mar 10, 2009 1:19 am

I just found out my next door neighbour has incurable bowel cancer.

I don't see him alot, but that's usually the way things are in day to day life.

I only found out because the folks are helping me decorate and dad caught next doors' wife (Karen) coming back from shops, and he asked how they were.

I feel awful that I didn't know. I have only really said 'hello' over the fence in the summer when you can actually hang washing out, and when you're emptying the boot after a trip to Sainsbury's.

I steeled myself at about 20.50 with a gobful of vodka and rang their doorbell.

I asked if it was a bad time, they said 'no', and invited me in.

They told me all about his treatment, how they found out, everything.

We talked about the 'C' word, and other related stuff.

I left at about 11pm.

I want to know... how do I help them? I know I can't do anything for his disease, but I want to do SOMEthing...

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Post by MrsBeasley » Tue Mar 10, 2009 10:14 am

All you can really do hun is let them know you are there for them.
I'm sure they would appreciate to know that if they needed something on a bad day that you would help. Even just nipping to get them milk can be a big help.

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Post by Son of Tubbs returns! » Tue Mar 10, 2009 4:57 pm

Well,I agree with Gilie.

Just say if there is anything you can do on a practical level you would be happy to help. Maybe put a little note or nice card through the door saying that. That would show you are thinking of them.

Just knowing they have your support and you will do anything to help if need be would be a comfort.
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Post by girl » Tue Mar 10, 2009 5:02 pm

Oh Tracy, I'm so sorry to hear about your neighbor. But Mrs. B and Paul are right, just letting them know that you are there is really something that people in need can always take solice in.

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Post by MrsBeasley » Tue Mar 10, 2009 5:29 pm

Oh a card is a nice idea Paul.
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